Our 2nd class dealt with this subject, TEACHING VS TRAINING and you can find the slides here toward the end of the slideshow. (on the right)
A child under the age of 12-13 is largely in the Training stage or Correction stage and must be corrected most of the time. This stage is very hard and it seems constant for some children! They need to be told what to do and they should learn to do this on the first request. They will obey under your request at times
(some children will need more force!) until they get the picture and the battle is won.
A child from 12-13 and up are in the Teaching stage as they are mostly under control and can be more easily taught. They need to be told why they should obey. They should obey now under voluntary submission.
Teaching and training will overlap according to the child's willingness to obey and their maturity level.
What we largely see today when young children misbehave is a failure on behalf of the parents to control their children. Unless a child is under control teaching cannot be accomplished well. The slide show gives reasons we don't control and examples of negative training. I think this subject is one of the most important to learn as a parent! By the way, there are more scriptures on correcting your children than most other subjects dealing with parenting issues...
The slide show states what training is and is not and is very enlightening. This all comes from the book,"What the Bible Says About Child Training." by Richard Fugate.
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stems back to my conversation with mom the other day...A lazy parent today creates regret tomorrow!
We can only parent our children the way we know is best...based on our childhood experience, things we would do differently and things we would do the same, adding our own mix in there. Anybody can walk in and "control" a child or "make" them do things (a child would respect out of fear instead of will)...but does the child understand WHY, and as a result, does the child RESPECT the parent by doing so?
Wish I was there to be a part of the class! Good job mom!!
ditto Jessica!
How do you get your child to respect out of duty and not fear? I feel like I do a lot of threatening just to make my kids afraid of me in order to manipulate them to get them to do what I want. I hate to take this approach...
dont threaten, just plainly state the rule and the punishment. Let the punishment be what they are afraid of and hopefully they will learn to respect you by the time they are 25...
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