Heredity- Genetically transmitted or transmittable from parent to offspring by inheritance or by reason of birth. The transmission from parent to offspring of certain characteristics. Tendency of offspring to resemble parents or ancestors.
Training- To guide the mental, moral, development of. To instruct so as to make proficient. Training has the specific goals of improving one's capability, capacity, and performance.
Capacity of the Whole family- Both heredity and training find strongest confirmation in this. (This is one of my favorite phrases!)
FACTS: The Booths raised a family with the express purpose of carrying on and perfecting the work which they had begun. All 8 children devoted their lives to the cause, although in later years a few left to start other ministries.
Few families are known to have infused into their members, (even the spouses to join the family later) the enthusiasm of its founder such as the Booth's did.
As the quote from "Memoirs of Catherine Booth" by Booth Tucker(out of print) states..."Considering how many fail in impressing their most cherished convictions upon their children, we shall do well to study the method by which Mrs. Booth achieved success."
Questions:
1. What do you think is important to pass on to your children?
2 In what ways should children resemble you, their parents?
3 Do you have a dream and a vision for your family? What would that be?
4 If you had a plan of training mapped out for your children what would that look like?
5 We didnt go into detail about this but what do you think the phrase"The capacity of the whole family" means for you?
You can state whether you agree or disagree with anything mentioned. We are not using this format to get all positive feedback. Some of the methods or ideas used by Catherine may be out dated or foreign to us ,as you will see in further conversations...we hope to glean the positive and learn from the negative....start talking!!
8 comments:
1. What do you think is important to pass on to your children?
-That each one has a relationship with Jesus.
2 In what ways should children resemble you, their parents?
-I hope they will take on my good character traits.
3 Do you have a dream and a vision for your family? What would that be?
-I think mine is to see my children using their gifts and calling in whatever way the Lord has for them.
4 If you had a plan of training mapped out for your children what would that look like?
-I wish I had been that deliberate. I think I was basically clueless.
5 We didnt go into detail about this but what do you think the phrase"The capacity of the whole family" means for you?
-That you influence your children but also your other children influence each other and you. I guess that would make it like the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
1. What do you think is important to pass on to your children?
-respect for adults, and patience... to name two. Also that in everything a parent does their children may imitate and learn how to live thru your actions and examples, big one for me!
2 In what ways should children resemble you, their parents?
-in their good characteristics. I believe a good child reflects a good parent. we teach them alot about God as well, so to encourage that type of learning and questioning is to promote a healthy relationship about God and WHY they believe what they believe (not to just say "this is what we believe").
3 Do you have a dream and a vision for your family? What would that be?
-I believe I will raise kids that love God and WANT to do his will and WANT to be good people and do the right things. My dream is that when the times come, it will be EASY for them to make right choices.
4 If you had a plan of training mapped out for your children what would that look like?
-OPEN LINES OF COMMUNICATION at all times and about anything;
-Structured discipline;
-Being held accountable for their actions, so later in life when I have no control in their choices, they will do or not do things based on the things we taught them when they were little, even now, not just because they fear the consequences but because they strive for the positive consequences.
5 We didnt go into detail about this but what do you think the phrase"The capacity of the whole family" means for you?
-parents and children working as a unit. Both me and Brad have differences as parents, he's more strict and I can be more lenient. but it balances out, bc I support his role and he supports mine, and when someone is in trouble, it's a serious discussion backed by the other parent. showing respect for the spouses discipline decision in front of the child is very important too, not belittling the spouses authority (that's to be done in private, not in front of the child). hmmmm, I went into detail didn't I!!
1. What do you think is important to pass on to your children?
Love of God, love of family, love of themselves (in a healthy way), good work ethic, respect for others, empathy for others
2 In what ways should children resemble you, their parents?
We hope that we have modeled a family life that they would want to emmulate and a real faith, and a loving marriage relationship and of course all our good qualities that could only come from God!
3 Do you have a dream and a vision for your family? What would that be?
That they would find their "calling" in the Lord primarily, as men (husband) and women, whether that be in the home, as a mother/(father) or in the workplace and in finding that and obeying the Lord, this will be their source of true contentment and happiness. And that our family would model the love of Christ to our community, therefore changing our corner of the world.
4 If you had a plan of training mapped out for your children what would that look like?
It has stayed consistent in some ways, mainly-love, respect, discipline, with realistic expectations according to age level. As they age, then expect them to have more "emotional" intelligence and see outside themselves to a broader picture.
5 We didnt go into detail about this but what do you think the phrase"The capacity of the whole family" means for you?
That the family has a capacity to be something more than just a household, but that given our unique giftings, talents, we actually can have a spiritual impact on our corner of the world by how we live with one another and serve those around us.
These are really great comments,ya'll and we're just beginning!!
1. What do you think is important to pass on to your children?
Biblical Truth, Responsibility, Accountability, Helping Others
2 In what ways should children resemble you, their parents?
I think they should be their own person, at the same time behaving as we've taught them.
3 Do you have a dream and a vision for your family? What would that be?
I don't really have a big dream or vision but I know how I want things to be. My hope is that we would always work together, like a unit, be understanding towards each other, be loving and caring towards each others feelings, help each other when needed, take each other's advice, etc...
4 If you had a plan of training mapped out for your children what would that look like?
I imagine it would look similar to how my parents trained me, since each parent wants their children to grown up and pass that along to their children.
5 We didnt go into detail about this but what do you think the phrase "The capacity of the whole family" means for you?
I looked up the word "capacity" and it says: Capacity is the ability to hold, receive or absorb, or a measure thereof, similar to the concept of volume.
The phrase to me means the family is held together, bonded.
oooooooooh! I love that definition you got, Bethany! Ability to hold, receive or absorb...wow...Family is held together, bonded!!
I had a thought last night (yes, can you believe it?!)...are you going to discuss the topic of teens or pre-teens that are already in a bad situation with no or little discipline, and what a parent is to do from this point? I have friends or know people that this is their main problem...they had no discipline raising the child and now it seems it's too late and the child is out of control. I'm sure this is what alot of mom's face now that they are more responsible and willing to accept that they need help. It's important to teach your child from a young age between right and wrong, but will you also discuss the subject of disciplining after the damage's been done?
1. What do you think is important to pass on to your children?
I am raising future adults, so it is important that they learn to make good choices. This will affect every area of their life, including the choice to follow God, which is the number one concern of christian parents. So whenever possible I give my kids a choice instead of my "Queen mother" role where I bark orders and they move to obey. There are instances where that is necessary, but if I continue to do that exclusively in every area of their life, I feel like my kids will rebel as soon as they can because they were never allowed to make decisions.
2. In what ways should children resemble you, their parents?
They should be taught our values and morals, which the parents should model. The hard part for me is judging the age at which I will let my kids start making major decisions and being able to let them sink or swim.
3. Do you have a dream and a vision for your family? what would that look like?
I hope to have raised my children in a way that they will make good decisions because they decided to based on their convictions, not because I am making them, and that they will have a moral system with goals that they will follow through their teenage years that won't be shaken by peer pressure. I especially worry about modeling a good christian marriage to them between my husband and I, because that will influence the kind of mate that they choose.
4. If you had a plan of training mapped out for your children what would that look like?
I haven't really mapped out a plan. I would like too, so here I am involved in this discussion! My greatest concern is the balance of control and rules a child should have, and when to "let go" and let them learn from their mistakes.
5. The capacity of our family should be that everyone finds fulfillment, then we will function as the best possible outcome, just like we christians are all parts of the body of Christ, we all have certain roles and gifts to add to the family. I hope to encourage each of my children to find the gift God gave them and to find their strengths, hobby, whatever makes them feel fullfilled. If they don't feel fulfilled, they will look for temporary pleasure somewhere else, and that is what I want to avoid.
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