Homework and Assignments

+ Please keep Reading the Bio of Catherine Booth (you can find this by googling her name and also the book to the right entitled Catherine Booth)
• List your hopes and dreams for your family on a piece of paper
• Determine one goal for your family to be implemented this week

• Make a list of things your children do that are
negative. On the opposite side list what you want
them to do instead or how you want them to respond instead...we will talk about this at our next class

We read this quote below from the book,"Boundaries with Kids," by Dr. Henry Cloud. Think about this quote during the week and how it relates to you. Don't get depressed about it! But let it help you in your goals and plans for your family!

One of the most helpful questions parents can ask themselves when faced with a child’s problem is not,”Why won’t he stop hitting his brother?” but “What was my part in creating this problem?” This will be painful as it will require you looking at the plank in your eye rather than the speck of sawdust in your child’s. (Matt. 7:1-5)

Teaching vs Training

Our 2nd class dealt with this subject, TEACHING VS TRAINING and you can find the slides here toward the end of the slideshow. (on the right)

A child under the age of 12-13 is largely in the Training stage or Correction stage and must be corrected most of the time. This stage is very hard and it seems constant for some children! They need to be told what to do and they should learn to do this on the first request. They will obey under your request at times
(some children will need more force!) until they get the picture and the battle is won.

A child from 12-13 and up are in the Teaching stage as they are mostly under control and can be more easily taught. They need to be told why they should obey. They should obey now under voluntary submission.

Teaching and training will overlap according to the child's willingness to obey and their maturity level.

What we largely see today when young children misbehave is a failure on behalf of the parents to control their children. Unless a child is under control teaching cannot be accomplished well. The slide show gives reasons we don't control and examples of negative training. I think this subject is one of the most important to learn as a parent! By the way, there are more scriptures on correcting your children than most other subjects dealing with parenting issues...

The slide show states what training is and is not and is very enlightening. This all comes from the book,"What the Bible Says About Child Training." by Richard Fugate.

Class Started Sept. 24th!!

The class started this past week and I thought it would be helpful to put the links to my slides from the class.The slides are not as thorough as the class because we discuss the topics, but still will be informative. Look at the links to the right, related subjects for class, and you can view the slides.

Below the slides is a link to the biography of Catherine Booth. The main chapter you can read in this is titled, "Motherhood." Reading this one chapter was the homework for the week!! You will also enjoy reading the whole book at your leisure!

Below that link is the book by William Booth in 1884 that I call, "The Lost Book", (His book on Child training) that I mentioned in my class. You can read that when you have time. Some of the practices are outdated but the advice on parenting is invaluable.

First Discussion: 3 Beliefs

Catherine Believed in 3 things concerning raising children:

Heredity- Genetically transmitted or transmittable from parent to offspring by inheritance or by reason of birth. The transmission from parent to offspring of certain characteristics. Tendency of offspring to resemble parents or ancestors.

Training- To guide the mental, moral, development of. To instruct so as to make proficient. Training has the specific goals of improving one's capability, capacity, and performance.

Capacity of the Whole family- Both heredity and training find strongest confirmation in this. (This is one of my favorite phrases!)

FACTS: The Booths raised a family with the express purpose of carrying on and perfecting the work which they had begun. All 8 children devoted their lives to the cause, although in later years a few left to start other ministries.

Few families are known to have infused into their members, (even the spouses to join the family later) the enthusiasm of its founder such as the Booth's did.

As the quote from "Memoirs of Catherine Booth" by Booth Tucker(out of print)  states..."Considering how many fail in impressing their most cherished convictions upon their children, we shall do well to study the method by which Mrs. Booth achieved success."

Questions:

1. What do you think is important to pass on to your children?

2 In what ways should children resemble you, their parents?

3 Do you have a dream and a vision for your family? What would that be?

4 If you had a plan of training mapped out for your children what would that look like?

5 We didnt go into detail about this but what do you think the phrase"The capacity of the whole family" means for you?

You can state whether you agree or disagree with anything mentioned. We are not using this format to get all positive feedback. Some of the methods or ideas used by Catherine may be out dated or foreign to us ,as you will see in further conversations...we hope to glean the positive and learn from the negative....start talking!!

Homework assignment

Check out this website and google Catherine Booth for some bio's....

www.spartacus.schoolnet.co.uk/Wbooth.htm

Conversations With Catherine Begins!!

I am starting Parenting  classes in the fall and would love to have you provide input into my curriculum since you are the mothers that deal with all the many issues with your children day to day.  Since it is based on the writings of Catherine Booth I am calling this forum, "Conversations with Catherine"

I have always been inspired by the life of Catherine Booth, wife of William Booth, founders of The Salvation Army. They had 8 children, adopted a few others, and managed to launch a now worldwide Christian organization rated the number 1 charity in America. It all began in the mid 1800's, the Victorian age, when a women did not have much impact in society, let alone the ability to become a premier preacher. Women had neither ethical nor legal rights over their property, children, or homes. They were the legal property of their husbands. They were seen and not heard. Catherine's accomplishments can be studied in depth and there are many websites available to save us time and effort...some links are here for you to view...Cant wait to get your input!!